Morning Sun.
Morning Sun. Photo: J.A.H. Fairbanks, Alaska at -29 below.


There seems to be a misunderstanding when it comes to the notion of being in a relationship. I’m referring to having a significant other. You know one plus one equals two.

The concept of binary centers on, according to its vocab, “relating to, using, or expressed in a system of numerical notation that has 2 rather than 10 as a base” or “relating to, composed of, or involving two things.” Then, what we consider a binary relationship is “when two entities participate and is the most common relationship degree”–credit Google for that.

So, to apply binary in a relationship–this means that the base or the core of a relationship equals to “something having two parts.” Simple enough, right?

The cliche goes “it takes two.” According to Rob Base and DJ Eazy Rock:

It takes two to make a thing go right. It takes two to make it out of sight. 

So, we’ve been programmed to believe that in order for a relationship to go right, it requires this binary. As in, “two parts makes a whole,” or “I am nothing, nothing if I don’t have you” (Whitney Houston), or the most popular “You complete me.”


What if the binary isn’t the requirement? Just what if, a singular entity that is steadfast and strong on its own foundation standing along side another singular base (separate and on its own foundation) leads to make all things go right?

We’ve been naive (rightfully so, of course) to believe a weak binary base can create a solid structure–when in fact, that shitty composite is going to bring the house down. If a person had no sense of self, and only relies on his/her partner to find his/her identity–to quote Flo Rida it’s going down for real.

It was Saturday morning when I took this beautiful photo of the skies. It was somewhere between -29 and fucking-freezing-my-ass-off type of weather, when I noticed the sky and I braved that damn cold, and stood on my porch for a brief moment.

Blue, and golden yellow side by side.  The colors were distinct, and one did not take away from the other.  But, there they were– two parts–clearly distinctive from one another, but just as strong in their own right.

And, yet the two parts created its own contrasting beauty that illuminated the morning sky

Such contrasting beauty can also be established in a relationship, right?  Two singular entities complimenting and contrasting one another even with their beautiful and perfectly flawed identities.

And, what could make more sense than that?

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